A NEW NORMAL

The biggest reward in the relationship game is falling in love/lust. Infatuation is the elixir needed to satisfy the rage of hormones and the euphoria we feel when we fall deeply for someone. The NEW feeling is out of control and we can't stop it. We don't want to stop it, so we will do whatever it takes to keep it NEW, fresh and lustful. That rapture of love is the oxygen of our existence. That mate then becomes our reason for living.

I find myself reflecting over past relationships, and the one thing I forgot to do was put myself first. Like so many women, I dive head first into relationships, sacrificing self for the sake of pleasing my mate. I'm guilty of being that woman who aim to please and give a man permission to treat me any way I allow him. It's funny how my queen-ship shows up bold and obvious in the beginning of a relationship. I'm treated with respect, loyalty and adoration. Then out of nowhere, I find my crown tossed in the corner collecting dust and cobwebs. Somewhere between being physically, emotionally and mentally attracted to my mate, I forgot about me. I put myself on the back burner so that I could out-please the lover before me. That takes work, because no mate will ever tell the truth about how their last mate made them feel. They may embellish the truth after they realize they can manipulate our emotions and that little window of opportunity to take advantage of a good thing and that sparks the relationship game. With me in pleasing mode, I steer myself into yearning to satisfy my mate's needs and desires. Not right, but that's the game. I had to come to terms that relationships is a gamble; sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.  

A NEW NORMAL is more than a novel about love, abandonment and having to become transparent with one's self. It's a book that teaches self-love, freedom and self-redemption. Anyone that has ever loved, walked away from love and kept getting into the same type of relationships, A NEW NORMAL characters teach us how to do self-character checks as we learn how to sit back and be alone with ourselves, love ourselves and wear the perfume of confidence. That fragrance will attract any and all that come in contact with us. DO YOU!!!! FIRST.